#TeenTalk With Nadia Sawalha & Her Teen Daughter Maddie

#teentalk This week British Chemist Boots launch their #teentalk campaign along with Procter and Gamble who make may household and toiletry products that we all use everyday. The idea behind the campaign is to  encourage parents and their teens to talk talk about changes the that will happen to them during puberty and to talk some more when they do. Basically just talk!

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The #teentalk campaign is being endorsed by celebrity Mum of 2 Nadia Sawalha and her eldest daughter Maddie,13.

“Up until this point, all problems have been easy to solve….a kiss, a biscuit, a cuddle and now, things don’t feel as easy to solve, especially for teenagers.  It feels different for us parents in a completely different way than its difficult for our teens.  It’s just a big change.  We have to have a conversation that is just ongoing and changes as they change.”

Nadia Sawalha

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Procter and Gamble asked some teens how they felt about their looks and there responses were that:

  • 63% of girls feel positive about their looks
  • 27% of girls feel extremely positive
  • 72% of boys feel good about their looks

These statistics are encouraging.  I know how I felt as a teenager and back then there wasn’t the pressure of the internet and social media.  so much pressure is put upon our youngsters and by talking to them then we can reassure then what they feel is normal and help them to deal with the stresses of the modern world; one very different to one I know I grew up in.

Puberty is a time for many changes that occur both physically and with our hormones and emotions.  I strongly believe like Boots, the key is to talk.  I know I never want to repeat my own experience with my children.  I want the to be armed with all the relevant fact and more.  Plus I want them to know that they can ask me anything with out being embarrassed.

“The teenage brain changes phenomenally and it’s such a confusing time for them”

Sarah Newton, Teenologist

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My children are 12 & 14 and I started having a general talk with them around about 8 or 9.  I also purchased some lovely books which were very age appropriate and asked them if they wanted to discuss things after.  My Son, was not so open.  I’m his mum, he clearly saw it as awkward but being a single parent I tried.  I’ve brought the subject up a number of times since but he doesn’t want to talk.  I can’t force him to talk and I never would but he knows he can talk to me if he wants to.

My daughter on the other hand did ask some questions and she also knows that at anytime she can ask about things if she wanted to.  I’ve explained to both of them I’d rather they ask, then be confused or unclear about anything.

It’s embarrassing to talk about these things but as a parent I’d rather be embarrassed than have my children be so confused as I was because my parents told me nothing.  My period started at 10 and I thought I was dying.

“Some of my friends haven’t had that chat…maybe because they don’t have an open relationship with their parents or maybe their parents are just embarrassed”

Maddie, 13

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Like Nadia, Maddie and Teenologist Sarah Newton, who I had the pleasure of meeting also, I firmly believe talking is the key.  Its all about preparing our children for the next, often daunting chapter of their lives.

“Its about keeping that relationship together and talking and yeah we’re going to get it wrong sometimes but it doesn’t matter, as long as you just keep talking”

Sarah Newton, Teenologist

Just talk, talk, talk and little your child know you are their for them when they want to talk if they don’t feel the time is right.

“It’s about just asking….Do you want to talk to me about this or do you want to talk to someone else?  It’s the best parenting tip ever,,,just ask the question”

Sarah Newton, Teenologist

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I don’t think anybody is going to say talking with your teenager will be easy and at times they won’t won’t to talk, you’ll get frustrated that they don’t want to but just try again another time.

“As a mum, I understand all too well with the challenges of communicating with teens.  They suddenly go from wanting to tell mum everything, to one word answers!  And you can’t solve things with a quick cuddle or a sweet treat.  First shaves, first periods and new personal hygiene and skin care regimes are all unfamiliar experiences for teens and can be difficult topics for parents to approach”

Nadia Sawalha

From my experience with my two children I very often get them blocking the subject out!  It’s a hard topic to talk about with your mum as its of a such personal nature. I just reassure them that I’m there for them.

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“Sometimes you are just not in the mood to talk about stuff and other times you just want a cuddle”

Maddie, 13

Boots have in store this great #teentalk booklet which is available free in store.  It has some great tips on how to tackle this topic and some great insights in to what your teen is going through both physically and emotionally.  Boots also in conjunction with Proctor and Gamble have some special offers in store from now until 30 May 2016.  22% of parents admitted to not knowing what products to recommend/purchase for their teen.  There are some great offers in store right now on products they will love including Always, Tampax, Gillette, Venus and Boots Tea Tree & Witch Hazel products.

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I also have a competition running where you can win some of these lovely products for the teen in your life.  Competition ends 31 May 2016

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And if all else fails?  Sit down an eat some cake like I did when I met Nadia and Maddie for afternoon tea last month!

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In exchange for talking about this campaign I was provided with a selection of goodies from Procter and Gamble that are available in Boots to help your teen find their way successfully through puberty.  I also had afternoon tea with Nadia and her lovely daughter Maddie.

38 Comments

  1. 12 May, 2016 / 10:05 am

    Oh wow, I am so envious that you got to meet Nadia. I have a bit of a girl crush on her.

    My daughter has just turned 11, so this is so relevant for us right now. I am going to pop into Boots to pick up one of those leaflets today!!

    • Candace
      12 May, 2016 / 12:02 pm

      It’s a great booklet to help you feel more at ease

  2. 12 May, 2016 / 10:36 am

    I don’t really remember having these kinds of talks with my parents, but it’s good that boots have launched this new campaign x

    • Candace
      12 May, 2016 / 12:02 pm

      I never had any talk with my mother which is why I’m so a determined for it to be positive with my children

  3. 12 May, 2016 / 11:28 am

    Thanks for the reminder! I’ve been putting off The Talk with my daughter and then beating myself up about it. I really need to get on with it! I bought a book a few months back, but haven’t shared it with her yet. I think I need to pick up that booklet from Boots too!

    • Candace
      12 May, 2016 / 12:01 pm

      The book concentrates more on helping parents to talk with their kids. There are some great tips

  4. 12 May, 2016 / 12:23 pm

    Those statistics are really encouraging. As the parent of a teen I find it heartening.

    • Candace
      12 May, 2016 / 12:50 pm

      I was surprised. I would have thought with all the pressure of peers and the media it would have been lower. Sadly, there still are some youngsters who need that extra boost

  5. 12 May, 2016 / 2:03 pm

    So happy about the stats too, great news that it seems media isn’t influencing kids as much as we think x

  6. 12 May, 2016 / 7:35 pm

    I’m sure I had the talk with my Mum but I don’t think I remember it now – I had a very difficult teen life though so I’ve blocked a lot out (not my parents fault at all). x

  7. 12 May, 2016 / 8:36 pm

    I lived with my dad until he died just before I was 14 because my mum wasn’t well so I didn’t have that whole mother/daughter relationship for talks, my dad dealt with it all so well though and didn’t make it at all awkward for me. I have my own daughter now who’s 11 and she is very open with me which I absolutely love, she tells me anything that’s on her mind and asks me many questions. I just hope that she stays this way as she gets older xx

  8. 12 May, 2016 / 8:57 pm

    How lucky are you to have met Nadia, I think she is great. This is such a great campaign I did think the stats would be different though which is nice to see x

  9. 12 May, 2016 / 9:36 pm

    My son didn’t want to talk to me about teenage issues when he was young. He knew I was there though and his dad if he ever had any questions.

  10. 12 May, 2016 / 9:48 pm

    I think it is so important to be open and honest with children so they feel comfortable approaching their parents for advice x

  11. 12 May, 2016 / 9:48 pm

    This sounds fabulous! I am really surprised by those statistics, I thought they would be a lot worse!

  12. 12 May, 2016 / 9:53 pm

    I did this talk with my god daughter a few years ago because her mum was too embarrassed, sad in many ways but I am quite matter of fact about things x

  13. 13 May, 2016 / 3:38 am

    I think this is an absolutely fabulous idea. I didn’t really have anyone that I felt as though I could talk to when I was in my teens so I think that having this for other young girls is so important xxx

  14. 13 May, 2016 / 9:02 am

    What a great campaign to launch. I’m pretty sure there was nothing like this when I was a teen. But we are talking about 15 years ago since I was 13!

  15. 13 May, 2016 / 10:46 am

    A really great article it’s so important to communicate with your teens and be open!

  16. 13 May, 2016 / 1:27 pm

    I have to say that I find parenting teens a lot harder than parenting babies and toddlers, but I have got two through it so far and one is halfway through. This is a great campaign

  17. 13 May, 2016 / 3:08 pm

    Those statistics are nice to see! I’m actually surprised that such a high proportion of teenagers felt good about their looks but it’s great to see! 🙂

  18. 13 May, 2016 / 4:48 pm

    My mum was always very open we me when I was younger and that’s I would like to be with my children too

  19. Hannah
    13 May, 2016 / 5:27 pm

    I loved reading this. I have a teenage sister and I am very open with any questions she has!

  20. 13 May, 2016 / 8:49 pm

    My girls are still young so luckily it’ll be a while before we need to have any talks.

  21. Stephanie Coals
    13 May, 2016 / 11:17 pm

    No I haven’t had the talk yet because they’re not old enough but I’m looking forward to it in a way as an opportunity to have a frank and honest conversation with them .

  22. 14 May, 2016 / 12:11 am

    I never fully understood what puberty was until it hit me. My mum had tried to explain things but found it a little uncomfortable and showed me a website to look at on the laptop, left it with me and went downstairs. I didn’t really feel the need to read it so I didn’t bother. I just kind of learnt as I went along. Periods and stuff like that I feel fine to talk to with my mum, took me long enough (I’m now 19) but when it comes to ‘the talk’ that’s a bit later on when you have a boyfriend, I still don’t want to talk to my mum about any of it! Some teens are completely different. I know some of my friends will sit and blurt everything out to their mum but I feel like that is still my private life and there is a line

  23. 14 May, 2016 / 7:13 am

    Having the talk with the kid is so important. My mother explained it to me and it was nothing scary. I’ve realized what happens and I told my mother. She made it sound like an amazing thing and we’ve celebrated that I was a little lady. It was a lovely experience. It’s a lovely campaign, parents should make the effort to listen and talk to their children.

  24. 14 May, 2016 / 4:22 pm

    Glad to learn those digits. Just a representation on how girls have been powerful, motivating and confident in a positive way. 🙂

  25. 14 May, 2016 / 5:07 pm

    A great read – Jack’s nowhere teenage years yet but I always remember never wanting to talk about things when I was a teen!

  26. 14 May, 2016 / 11:07 pm

    Wow, this is definitely a project that young teenagers need in today’s society! I look forward to seeing how this progresses. I don’t have any kids yet, but I will let some of my friends who do know about this.

  27. 15 May, 2016 / 6:41 pm

    I think this is a great campaign that people really need to get behind. I never spoke to my parents about any issues I had during puberty and still don’t feel comfortable talking to them about a lot of things. That’s not the way I’d like things to be and I will make sure that my own kids don’t feel the same way! Talk, talk, talk!

  28. 16 May, 2016 / 9:23 am

    We talk about things all the time with my eldest (13). I’m not saying it always easy and I’m doing it 100% right but little and often seems to make conversations so much more normal. So far, so good on the body image which is important as she is an athlete in a swimming costume 6 days per week. 10 is a heart breakingly young age to start – I believe it is becoming much more common though x

    • Candace
      16 May, 2016 / 9:28 am

      10 was very young 30+ years ago but I vow not to let my daughter go through what I did

  29. 16 May, 2016 / 11:07 am

    im very lucky to be able to feel confident enough to speak to my children enough to help them with things i know they may be feeling uncomfortable about it was only last week my 11 soon to be 12 yr old came running at me in excitement that she found a hair under her arm pit and the conversation started ..

  30. 17 May, 2016 / 9:22 am

    I just love this campaign, something I feel so strongly about having a 9 year old daughter x

  31. 30 May, 2016 / 1:39 pm

    We are always talking openly about things, it is so important xx

  32. Wendy Collard
    31 May, 2016 / 11:29 am

    I’m quite open with my kids, my eldest is 11 now and does ask questions about many things, I think it’s best just to be open and make it clear as a parent you are approachable to discuss anything and everything that may be on their mind.

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