This week British Chemist Boots launch their #teentalk campaign along with Procter and Gamble who make may household and toiletry products that we all use everyday. The idea behind the campaign is to encourage parents and their teens to talk talk about changes the that will happen to them during puberty and to talk some more when they do. Basically just talk!
The #teentalk campaign is being endorsed by celebrity Mum of 2 Nadia Sawalha and her eldest daughter Maddie,13.
“Up until this point, all problems have been easy to solve….a kiss, a biscuit, a cuddle and now, things don’t feel as easy to solve, especially for teenagers. It feels different for us parents in a completely different way than its difficult for our teens. It’s just a big change. We have to have a conversation that is just ongoing and changes as they change.”
Procter and Gamble asked some teens how they felt about their looks and there responses were that:
- 63% of girls feel positive about their looks
- 27% of girls feel extremely positive
- 72% of boys feel good about their looks
These statistics are encouraging. I know how I felt as a teenager and back then there wasn’t the pressure of the internet and social media. so much pressure is put upon our youngsters and by talking to them then we can reassure then what they feel is normal and help them to deal with the stresses of the modern world; one very different to one I know I grew up in.
Puberty is a time for many changes that occur both physically and with our hormones and emotions. I strongly believe like Boots, the key is to talk. I know I never want to repeat my own experience with my children. I want the to be armed with all the relevant fact and more. Plus I want them to know that they can ask me anything with out being embarrassed.
“The teenage brain changes phenomenally and it’s such a confusing time for them”
Sarah Newton, Teenologist
My children are 12 & 14 and I started having a general talk with them around about 8 or 9. I also purchased some lovely books which were very age appropriate and asked them if they wanted to discuss things after. My Son, was not so open. I’m his mum, he clearly saw it as awkward but being a single parent I tried. I’ve brought the subject up a number of times since but he doesn’t want to talk. I can’t force him to talk and I never would but he knows he can talk to me if he wants to.
My daughter on the other hand did ask some questions and she also knows that at anytime she can ask about things if she wanted to. I’ve explained to both of them I’d rather they ask, then be confused or unclear about anything.
It’s embarrassing to talk about these things but as a parent I’d rather be embarrassed than have my children be so confused as I was because my parents told me nothing. My period started at 10 and I thought I was dying.
“Some of my friends haven’t had that chat…maybe because they don’t have an open relationship with their parents or maybe their parents are just embarrassed”
Like Nadia, Maddie and Teenologist Sarah Newton, who I had the pleasure of meeting also, I firmly believe talking is the key. Its all about preparing our children for the next, often daunting chapter of their lives.
“Its about keeping that relationship together and talking and yeah we’re going to get it wrong sometimes but it doesn’t matter, as long as you just keep talking”
Sarah Newton, Teenologist
Just talk, talk, talk and little your child know you are their for them when they want to talk if they don’t feel the time is right.
“It’s about just asking….Do you want to talk to me about this or do you want to talk to someone else? It’s the best parenting tip ever,,,just ask the question”
Sarah Newton, Teenologist
I don’t think anybody is going to say talking with your teenager will be easy and at times they won’t won’t to talk, you’ll get frustrated that they don’t want to but just try again another time.
“As a mum, I understand all too well with the challenges of communicating with teens. They suddenly go from wanting to tell mum everything, to one word answers! And you can’t solve things with a quick cuddle or a sweet treat. First shaves, first periods and new personal hygiene and skin care regimes are all unfamiliar experiences for teens and can be difficult topics for parents to approach”
From my experience with my two children I very often get them blocking the subject out! It’s a hard topic to talk about with your mum as its of a such personal nature. I just reassure them that I’m there for them.
“Sometimes you are just not in the mood to talk about stuff and other times you just want a cuddle”
Boots have in store this great #teentalk booklet which is available free in store. It has some great tips on how to tackle this topic and some great insights in to what your teen is going through both physically and emotionally. Boots also in conjunction with Proctor and Gamble have some special offers in store from now until 30 May 2016. 22% of parents admitted to not knowing what products to recommend/purchase for their teen. There are some great offers in store right now on products they will love including Always, Tampax, Gillette, Venus and Boots Tea Tree & Witch Hazel products.
I also have a competition running where you can win some of these lovely products for the teen in your life. Competition ends 31 May 2016
And if all else fails? Sit down an eat some cake like I did when I met Nadia and Maddie for afternoon tea last month!
In exchange for talking about this campaign I was provided with a selection of goodies from Procter and Gamble that are available in Boots to help your teen find their way successfully through puberty. I also had afternoon tea with Nadia and her lovely daughter Maddie.