You Have Nothing

A cautionary tale of what not to say to a person with Chronic Illnesses.

December was a month filed with glandular fever for The Boy. Then January was a month filled with pneumonia for the The Girl. Before I knew it February had hit and here we are at half term.

I’m tired.

I’m exhausted.

Quite frankly my brain is frazzled.

These past 2 months of illness came from nowhere and took over my life. Routines just went out of the window. Work was done between Drs appointments, hospital appointments, blood tests, chest X-rays, administering antibiotics, giving painkillers and humongous amounts of cuddles & kisses.

It’s worn me out.

Well & truly.

I’ve not been able rest much and my back I’d suffering. Having osteoarthritis in you lower back is no fun. I can’t stand with good posture as that really hurts, so I slouch. This eases the pain in my lower back but gives my pain higher up in my spine as I’m not standing straight. The only thing that really helps is lying flat in bed and you can’t live life doing that so I plod on. But the last few months I’ve spent less time resting and the pain has really built up so I have been using crutches again the past few days. Before anyone suggests I need to do this, I need to do that etc etc, I’ve tried it all, had tests for years and this is what settles my pain the best for me. I have tried everything over the past 17 years and I know what works for me.

Somebody asked me if the kids were better today. I replied, yes but they both are still quite tired and need to build their strength up.

Their reply was to tell me without your health you have nothing.

This is just what a person who has 2 children with life long illnesses and chronic illness herself needs to hear.

So there we have it.

I have nothing.






  1. 25th February 2015 / 2:19 am

    It would help if people thought about what they were saying before they opened their mouths wouldn’t it?

    I’m glad the children are on the mend, I hope you manage to get some rest and your back improves soon. Back pain is awful, really wearing, and I know what you mean about the frazzled thing.

  2. 14th March 2015 / 7:57 pm

    Sounds to me like you have quite a lot! Unfortunately, you also have some troubles. Ignore those negative Nellies! Stay strong, wishing you happier days 🙂

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