Growing up is hard. One day you are a child then suddenly you wake up and your body is changing. These changes can be hard for a young one to get there head around. I feel that 30 years on from when I went through this The Girl will be far more prepared then I was.
My Mother was never one to discuss things like puberty with me. To be honest by the time we got to the talk at school it was too late for me. I think I was the first in my school year to start there periods. I was 11 and still at primary school. I later found out both my Mother and Grandmother started their periods earlier then their peers. I’ve always been aware of this and thought that The Girl may follow our family tradition.
My Mother handed me a book she had got from the library about 6 months before my period started. Sadly we didn’t really have the sort of relationship where I could ask questions. Back in the 80’s there wasn’t the internet where a girl could simply google what she wanted to find the answer too.
The Birds And the Bees
Both The Girl and Boy and the birds and bees talk at school in Yrs 5 & 6 and this was followed up with two fantastic books – one aimed at each sex that explained puberty for both sexes. The Girl had a few questions when I gave them these book about 3 years ago but The Boy being a boy wanted to discuss nothing. It’s hard being a single parent to a boy and discussing these things but he’s certain he doesn’t have any questions. I think I know how he feels, I wouldn’t have felt discussing these matters with my Father; lets face it I couldn’t even discuss with my Mother.
The Girl had a few questions mainly regarding how to use tampons vs towels. At home we had both Always pads and Tampax tampons. We had a discussion about the benefits and negatives of both products and how when the time came she could try both and see what she prepared.
A lovely company called Teen Parcel had been brought to our attention a little while ago and they have very kindly supplied us with a monthly parcel aimed at young ladies going through puberty. Teen parcel is a subscription company who supply monthly packages to help young ladies with the changes their bodies are going through and their periods.
The package we were supplied with contained enough tampons to cover you for your period. There is also the option for towels if preferred. There was also a little drawstring bag to place your tampons in when you are away from home. A great discreet little bag that will be of great use of any girl to discreetly store their tampons in.
Included was also a pamper package to help to raise spirits whilst having your period. Lets face it we all like to be pampered and I found this a lovely addition.
Inside the pamper package were 3 facial products, a lovely little bracelet with a ribbon charm, some sweets, a chocolate tea bag and some fab nail varnish from
The package arrived and when The Girl saw it she was over the moon. The package has prompted a few more questions from here and for this I am grateful. I really do not want her going in to this important stage of her life confused, upset and frightened about what is/will happen to her body. Life is tough on youngsters now and anything that can ease this time of their lives is a good thing for me.
The Girl was really impressed with the pamper package. Sweets, chocolate and nail varnish is always a hit with The Girl. It was clear to me the lovely nail varnish was going to be a hit. She like the way the face cleaner feel and luckily we don’t need to use the spot creams yet so we have put those away until they are needed.
The Teen Parcel costs £5.95 for the first month then £9.95 after. This includes postage of a box which Teen Parcel state will fit through 95% of letter boxes; no having to go to the post office if you are out! When signing up Girls can advise when their periods are due and choose either tampons or towels. The box will be delivered a few days before the period is due. Unlike a lot of subscriptions Teen Parcel is easy to cancel if you wish too. Nothing annoys me more than having to sign up for a certain length of time or give extensive notice.
Although not needed in our house just yet, the Teen Parcel really is a success with The Girl. I am happy to sign The Girl up for a subscription when the need arises. The Girl has other ideas and my words are clearly falling on deaf ears. Anything that gets a young lady talking about changes to her body positively can only be a good thing.
A few weeks ago I was invited to have afternoon tea with Nadia Sawalha and her teenage daughter to discuss having the teen talk. It was a great discussion about talking to your children about the changes they face during puberty.
Do you have a tween daughter and have this chat yet to come? How did you approach the subject with your daughter? Was it an easy conversation to have or was their embarrassment on both side? Do you think your own experience influenced how you breached the subject with your children?